Love & Longing: When Distance Becomes Devotion
Updated: 7 days ago
Dear Reader,
There are times when the person we love cannot be beside us, yet their presence remains in nearly everything we do.
A familiar song brings them to mind. Something happens during the day, and they are the first person we want to tell. We find ourselves remembering a conversation, a smile, or the comfort of being together.
I believe those moments remind us of something important about love.
Distance may separate two people, but it doesn't necessarily separate their hearts.
Sometimes, it makes us more aware of just how much someone means to us.
What Longing Really Means
Longing is more than simply missing someone.
It is the desire to share our lives with a person whose presence has become meaningful to us. It is looking forward to the next conversation, the next embrace, or the simple pleasure of being together again.
For some, that longing comes during a temporary separation. For others, it may accompany memories of a relationship or a loved one they can no longer hold close.
And sometimes, longing begins before we've even met the person we hope to share our future with.
Though those experiences are different, each reminds us how deeply our hearts can be touched by another person.
I think that is one reason longing finds its way into so much poetry. There are feelings we carry that ordinary conversation doesn't always seem able to express.
What Distance Can Teach Us
When we are separated from someone we love, we often discover how much we appreciate the things we might otherwise take for granted.
The sound of a familiar voice. A shared meal. Holding hands during a walk. Knowing that someone is there at the end of a difficult day.
It is easy to overlook the significance of these moments when they are part of our everyday lives.
Distance can remind us of their value.
But I also believe longing should encourage us to do more than wish for someone's presence.
It should remind us to express our gratitude, communicate our affection, and make the most of the time we are given together.
Love deserves more than our thoughts. It deserves our attention and our actions.
When Longing Becomes Devotion
I believe there is a difference between longing for someone and choosing to love them well.
Longing expresses what our hearts desire. Devotion is demonstrated through what we do.
When two people are apart, devotion may be found in a thoughtful message, a reassuring conversation, or the willingness to remain patient when circumstances are difficult.
When they are together, that same devotion becomes part of everyday life through kindness, encouragement, understanding, and the promises they honor.
Longing reminds us why someone's presence matters.
Devotion reminds us to make certain they know it.
And for those carrying the memories of a love that has passed, devotion may take another form: gratitude for the moments shared and respect for the place that person will always hold in their hearts.
Giving Longing a Voice
One of the things I appreciate about poetry is its ability to express feelings we sometimes struggle to explain.
A poem can hold anticipation and uncertainty, affection and remembrance, gratitude and sorrow.
It allows us to acknowledge that love is not always simple, and that longing may be part of both its greatest joys and its most difficult seasons.
Sometimes writing a few words is enough to bring a little clarity to what we are feeling.
Perhaps those words become a letter to someone we love. Perhaps they remain in a journal. Or perhaps they become a poem.
The important thing is allowing ourselves to recognize what is in our hearts.
A Thought to Carry With You
If there is someone you are longing to see, perhaps today is a good day to remind them how much they mean to you.
Tell them what you appreciate. Share a memory that makes you smile. Let them know you are looking forward to the next moment you can spend together.
And when that moment arrives, don't allow the ordinary distractions of life to overshadow the gift of their presence.
I believe love becomes stronger when we learn not only to recognize its value, but to express it faithfully.
Distance may remind us of what our hearts are missing.
Devotion is how we show what our hearts have found.
— Letters of My Heart Journal
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